Soulmates

One danger of the "soul mate philosophy" is that it's possible to believe you married the wrong person and to think that someone else must be your soul mate. Many affairs and divorces have resulted from recklessly pursuing this line of thinking as people go from relationship to relationship. 

Do soul mates exist? Some people believe that God one person for them;others believe there are a number of people they could be compatible with. No matter which perspective you hold to, one truth stands clear: once you make the choice to marry, stop looking for your soul mate. After you marry, your husband becomes "the one" as he two of you become one (Genesis 2:24).

How do two people become one? The Bible gives us clear, unwavering guidance on making love last:

Beware of idealizing your mate. It's true-those "little things" you found so attractive in your mate initially often become the source of irritation later in marriage. In marriage, guards are down and the masks removed. There is no perfect man-or woman! (Romans 3:23)

Relationships are hard work. All relationships require attention. If your idea of a perfect relationship is one that exists to meet your needs and require low maintenance, consider getting a pet, not a husband! (Proverbs 31:10-31)

Don't idolize happiness. Many of us have a skewed idea that we deserve happiness and that the pursuit of happiness should guide our choices about relationships. So we give up on a struggling relationship, and we forfeit what amazing things God would do in our marriages if we worked through our difficulties. 

Choose to love. Sometimes you won't feel like you love him or you'll feel confused by your emotions for another man. That's when you have to choose to love your husband-not because he deserves it or  because you want to, but because you know that's pleasing to God.  Act on love toward him (1 Corinthians 13), and your feelings will eventually follow. 

Focus on becoming the kind of person you'd like to marry. Remember listing all those traits about your dream guy in high school? Do you want a kind-hearted, generous man? How would your friends describe you? Take the top five character items on your list of the "perfect guy", and measure your own progress in those areas. -Woman's Devotional Bible

"Soul mates are made, no born. You start with the ingredients for a highly compatible, successful relationship, and then you work to develop closeness and intimacy." -Neil Clark Warren

{Genesis 2:24}
This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.


{Proverbs 19:22}
Loyalty makes a person attractive.

It is better to be poor than dishonest.

 

{1 Corinthians 13}

1 If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.  

2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing.  

3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.

4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud  

5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.  

6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.  

7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

8 Prophecy and speaking in unknown languages and special knowledge will become useless. But love will last forever!  

9 Now our knowledge is partial and incomplete, and even the gift of prophecy reveals only part of the whole picture!  

10 But when the time of perfection comes, these partial things will become useless.

11 When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.  

12 Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely.

13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.

 

 

{1 John 4:16-21}

16 We know how much God loves us, and we have put our trust in his love.

God is love, and all who live in love live in God, and God lives in them.  

17 And as we live in God, our love grows more perfect. So we will not be afraid on the day of judgment, but we can face him with confidence because we live like Jesus here in this world.

18 Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.  

19 We love each other because he loved us first.

20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a Christian brother or sister, that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see?  

21 And he has given us this command: Those who love God must also love their Christian brothers and sisters.